These simple questions could change you life

Unlocking the art of asking yourself the right questions

Good Morning!

At the end of this digital issue, there are 30 questions you need to ask yourself for a total life transformation. Read through to the end and let me know how they land with you

Let me start with a confession: I have long thought personal growth was about collecting answers. I read more books, listened to more podcasts, and chased after clarity as if it were something hiding under the next Google search. But I’ve come to realise something far simpler—and far more powerful. Growth doesn't begin with answers. It begins with better questions.

Most of us spend our days responding to questions we never consciously chose: “What do I need to get done today?” “How do I compare to others?” “What’s expected of me?” We wake up, open our phones, and step straight into a stream of noise that nudges us to perform, hustle, and keep up. But the real breakthroughs—the kind that shift the course of our lives—often begin with questions that interrupt the script. This is what this message you is about today.

What does real peace look like?

The people who seem most at peace, most grounded, aren’t necessarily the ones who’ve figured everything out. They’re often the ones who’ve gotten curious. They’re the ones who, when life throws something their way, pause and ask, “What’s really going on here?” or “What might this be teaching me?”

Throughout history, some of the wisest minds have understood this. I remember learning about Socrates in university; he was known for his relentless questioning—it was his primary tool for helping others uncover their own beliefs and contradictions. Jesus often answered questions with more questions, guiding people to discover the truth within themselves. Even in modern therapy or coaching, the most transformative moments rarely come from someone giving advice. They come when someone asks the right question at the right time.

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So why is it that, as adults, we so rarely ask ourselves anything deeper than “What’s for dinner?” or “Why is my inbox a mess?” Maybe it’s because we’ve been trained to chase certainty and avoid discomfort. Real questions—the ones that dig under the surface—rarely come with tidy answers. They stir things up. They ask us to stop, reflect, and face things we’d often rather leave buried.

But that’s where the gold is. The act of asking a good question is like planting a seed. You may not see the fruit right away, but it starts something. It cracks the soil. It makes space for growth.

The time I got burnt out.

Let me share a little story. A few years ago, I was completely burnt out. I was saying yes to too many things, trying to be everything to everyone, and slowly losing a sense of what I actually cared about. I didn’t realise it until one quiet afternoon when a friend asked me, almost casually, “What are you chasing?”

I couldn’t answer. Not really. I mumbled something about impact and opportunity, but I knew in my gut that wasn’t it. That question stayed with me. I carried it around for days. And slowly, I started noticing how many of my choices were driven by fear—fear of missing out, of being forgotten, of not being enough. It was uncomfortable, but it was also clarifying. That one question didn’t fix my life, but it started the process of reclaiming it.

Since then, I’ve tried to develop a habit of asking myself better questions. Not to find neat answers, but to live with more awareness and intention. Over time, certain types of questions have stood out as especially helpful.