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When people show you who they are, believe them the first time
Dr. Maya Angelou once said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” This is one of the hardest life lessons that I’ve ever tried to follow, but it is sage advice.
When someone really shows you and tells you who they are, take them at their word. If someone you are dating cheats on you, see it. When someone you love quits school because it’s not the right direction for them, hear them. When someone tells you that they have nothing left to give, believe them.
People know themselves far better than you know them. That is not to say that people can’t change down the road or that they don’t deserve a second chance, but it does mean that when they are saying “this is who I am right now,” you can’t expect them to be someone else.
This community is full of builders and change makers and so I suspect many of you may be the type of people that fight for others. You build things. You may even have a saviour complex where you want to change and help everyone grow. I have lost a lot of hair over trying to change people and unfortunately, you can’t.
This may feel like giving up but it’s not. It leaves you in an empowered position. When you look at someone for who they are and not who you want them to be, you can decide if this is a healthy or unhealthy force in your life. You deserve to have healthy surroundings. If someone tells you over and over, “I love you, but I’m not healthy,” you have some decisions to make.
It’s a painful truth, however, some people are not ready to be a meaningful part of your life, no matter how much you want them to be. Growth is learning to love from afar and not allowing everyone proximity.
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